‘Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.’ Murakami quoted in this interesting post - via ⁦
"The number of people who believe an idea is directly proportional to the number of times it has been repeated during the last year—even if the idea is false."
This is a great article on the role of tribalism in belief propagation. TL;DR: break bread with those you disagree with, be curious, and open your tribe to include them. This is hard work.
You must be willing to disagree with the masses and even your friends to follow the truth. Most people are too weak to do this. They'd rather be accepted by the group.
Humans are herd animals. We want to fit in, to bond w/others, & to earn the respect & approval. Such inclinations are essential to our survival. Our ancestors lived in tribes. Becoming separated from the tribe—or worse, being cast out—was a death sentence.
Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds
This piece is packed w/wisdom: •Hard to change mind if it will exclude u from your group •Don’t repeat a bad idea just to complain about it–makes it persist. •Champion good ideas vs. tear down bad ones •“Be kind first, be right later.”
"Convincing someone to change their mind is really the process of convincing them to change their tribe."
“Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.” -Haruki Murakami  Why Facts Don’t Change Minds
Int'g article. Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds "You can’t expect someone to change their mind if you take away their community too. You have to give them somewhere to go. Nobody wants their worldview torn apart if loneliness is the outcome."
"The people who are most likely to change our minds are the ones we agree with on 98% of topics. If someone you know, like, and trust believes a radical idea, you are more likely to give it merit, weight, or consideration."
Truth and accuracy are not the only things that matter to the human mind. Humans also seem to have a deep desire to belong.
Some interesting ideas on our beliefs and how to change people’s minds - arguments dont work very well!