Why Online Dating Can Feel Like Such an Existential Nightmare
Matchmaking sites have officially surpassed friends and family in the world of dating, injecting modern romance with a dose of radical individualism. Maybe that’s the problem.
I wrote about That Dating Graph and the existential angst of coupling in an age of radical individualism
"As the influence of friends and family has melted away, the burden of finding a partner has been swallowed whole by the individual—at the very moment that expectations of our partners are skyrocketing," writes
Tracy Chou 👩🏻💻
what a description of online dating: “a digital bazaar where one’s appearance, interestingness, quick humor, lighthearted banter, sex appeal, photo selection—one’s worth—is submitted for 24/7 evaluation before an audience of distracted or cruel strangers”
I dunno, I *kind* of think it's an existential nightmare, but dating (for women) before online dating was nightmarish, too
“Robots are not yet replacing our jobs. But they’re supplanting the role of matchmaker once held by friends and family.”
A great piece - no moral panic, full of good info
But this line: "In sociology-speak, our relationships were “mediated.” In human-speak, your wingman was your dad." My goal is to chart a linguistic path somewhere down the middle.