I released the primal scream that we -- and countless other parents for whom this situation isn't just untenable, it's impossible -- have been feeling since March.
"Let me say the quiet part loud: In the Covid-19 economy, you’re allowed only a kid or a job," writes Deb Perelman. "Why isn’t anyone talking about this?"
"Let me say the quiet part loud: In the Covid-19 economy, you’re allowed only a kid or a job." This op/ed is very good, but let's also be honest: In the Covid-19 economy, MOTHERS are allowed only a kid or a job.
You can have a job or a kid, but not both. Kids going to school on just some days, but home other days are not aligning with parents work schedules. We are going to be dealing with this “lost” year for a long time
If there were more parents of young kids in elected office, dealing with the child care crisis would be a bigger deal. But there aren’t. So instead, millions of parents are drowning.
"In the Covid-19 economy, you’re allowed only a kid or a job. Why isn’t anyone talking about this? Why are we not hearing a primal scream so deafening that no plodding policy can be implemented without addressing the people buried by it?"
If you read one primal scream about *gestures at everything for parents* today, please read this by
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both. - The New York Times
"What is confusing to me is that these two plans are moving forward apace without any consideration of the working parents who will be ground up in the gears when they collide."
"In the Covid-19 economy, you’re allowed only a kid or a job. Why isn’t anyone talking about this? Why are we not hearing a primal scream so deafening that no plodding policy can be implemented without addressing the people buried by it?"
"Our struggle is not an emotional concern. We are not burned out. We are being crushed by an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential."
Decades of framing stagnant labor force participation rates among mothers as an "opt-out revolution" (thanks, Lisa Belkin) has set the stage for inaction on what I suspect will be biggest gender inequality-generating event since end of WWII.
I am tired & every parent I know is just battered from the last four months. This piece really captured everything I feel in the five minutes I allot myself each morning to scream behind the bathroom door.
"We are not burned out because life is hard this year. We are burned out because we are being rolled over by the wheels of an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential."
“In the Covid-19 economy, you’re allowed only a kid or a job.” The pandemic is making it clearer than ever: we need to make child care more accessible and safe for every working parent.
We need universal child care.
The plans that schools are rolling out for fall are not only crushing for kids & parents (forced to choose bw their jobs & kids); they’re hardest of all on teachers-forced to supervise in-class AND remote learning, often while homeschooling their own kids.
"Allowing workplaces to reopen while schools, camps and day cares remain closed tells a generation of working parents that it’s fine if they lose their jobs, insurance and livelihoods in the process." A MUST READ
"Let me say the quiet part loud: In the Covid-19 economy, you're allowed only a kid or a job."
THIS. THIS. THIS. And predictably, the impact of this will be hugely gendered.
Having a kid (with a second one on the way) has been hard through all this, but at least I have a flexible job. Parents need a bailout, likely UBI.
The point that this excellent op-ed makes was true in the US pre Covid-19. When you have no national parental leave policy, working class mothers get screwed, and middle-class mothers get trapped in "having it all" bullshit discourse. The wealthy buy help.
I feel like this is The Week When Parents Broke - there has been a flood of frustration at a system with no solutions
“We are not burned out because life is hard this year. We are burned out because we are being rolled over by the wheels of an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential.“
Universities/Departments/tenure committees will need to grapple with the idea that the "you get an extra year!" solution is just not going to be enough as people head into fall semester with precarious childcare or no childcare at all.
“Every single person confesses burnout, despair, feeling like they are losing their minds, knowing in their guts that this is untenable.”
It should be obvious, but a nonnegotiable precondition of “getting back to normal” is that families need a normal to return to as well. says the quiet part loud
Virtual learning doesn’t work and requires a parent, usually the mom, to be the all-day teacher’s assistant. Plus it leaves kids who were already behind for various reasons in the dust. This column says everything I’ve been thinking. Wish I’d written it!
. ⁦⁩: “We are not burned out because life is hard this year. We are burned out because we are being rolled over by the wheels of an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential.“
Let me say the quiet part loud: In the Covid-19 economy, you’re allowed only a kid or a job.
"We are not burned out because life is hard this year. We are burned out because we are being rolled over by the wheels of an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential."
A colleague asks if I have seen this piece. I say no, because (ironically) I have been too stressed trying to work and mommy full-time, simultaneously, that I have not had time to read through my own newspaper. And then I do read it, and want to weep.
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both. This is spot on. As parents lucky enough to still have jobs, we are drowning in responsibilities. No sleep, no breaks, and no end in sight.
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.
I feel like they came in my house and took this picture. This is a good read.
"Allowing workplaces to reopen while schools, camps and day cares remain closed tells a generation of working parents that it’s fine if they lose their jobs, insurance and livelihoods in the process. " #OhioStateWIMS #WomenInScience #WomenInMedicine
Yesterday, I disturbed some colleagues with a heartfelt groan when they asked me how I was. Here’s why!
"Let me say the quiet part loud: In the Covid-19 economy, you’re allowed only a kid or a job...Every single person confesses burnout, despair, feeling like they are losing their minds, knowing in their guts that this is untenable."
”Allowing workplaces to reopen while schools, camps and day cares remain closed tells a generation of working parents that it’s fine if they lose their jobs, insurance and livelihoods in the process.”
i've read a lot of articles about this but this one lands every point.
So much this!!!! In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.
“We are not burned out because life is hard this year. We are burned out because we are being rolled over by the wheels of an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential.”
US priorities are wrong. We care more about opening bars & nail salons, than schools, deciding to hang a generation of children and parents out to dry. It is short sighted, cruel and will have severe long term health and economic consequences
I'll join the chorus of parents silently screaming that we cannot endure a school year of both working from home and supervising kids learning at home, especially the youngest school kids who don't have the ability to guide and take care of themselves.
Remote learning as a viable choice is a fantasy of a male-dominated society. If kids aren't back at school, families will suffer and in turn we'll all suffer as we lose talent and skills from the workforce.
So much this 👇🏻 Working parents, children, teachers, & caregivers are being sacrificed at the altar of almighty capitalism
"We all ask one another why we aren’t making more noise. The consensus is that everyone agrees this is a catastrophe, but we are too bone-tired to raise our voices above a groan, let alone scream through a megaphone."
All of this x 100000
If you’re seeing more parenting tweets from me lately it’s because of THIS 👇(read the article, describes the situation way more eloquently than I can). IMO, this is not getting enough attention and I don’t get it. Should be front page news and dialogue!
Job or kid? Even with risk considerations, reopening the economy means providing families with predictable, full-time school and daycare. via
THIS "We are not burned out because life is hard this year. We are burned out because we are being rolled over by the wheels of an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential."
Important and interesting read via ⁦
‘Why isn’t anyone talking about this? Why are we not hearing a primal scream so deafening that no plodding policy can be implemented without addressing the people buried by it?’ #homeworking #homeschooling #singleparenting #COVID19 #lockdown
On a personal level: I feel this so much. (And we are lucky to be well off!) At the social level: COVID's devastating impact in USA is a result of not building the safety net that most advanced countries have: childcare, healthcare, job protections etc.
This is a terrific, honest, self-aware piece acknowledging the exhaustion and despair of Covid parents lucky enough to keep working but not sure how much longer it can all go on
Great piece, and I couldn't agree more that parents need to make more noise, and soon, about this gendered silence on child care. In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.
for the vast majority of us, this article tells the story of our reality. 2/
Anyone got an answer for this?
“Allowing workplaces to reopen while schools, camps and day cares remain closed tells a generation of working parents that it’s fine if they lose their jobs, insurance and livelihoods in the process.”
If you think that we will all be working from home "post-pandemic", 's article "In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both" should be compulsory reading!
This!!!!! “Working mothers all over the country feel that they’re being pushed out of the labor force or into part-time jobs as their responsibilities at home have increased tenfold”
"Allowing workplaces to reopen while schools, camps and day cares remain closed tells a generation of working parents that it’s fine if they lose their jobs, insurance and livelihoods in the process. "
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.
I never imagined when my husband and I decided to have a family that I would have to choose between my career and my daughter. In fact, when I expressed any concerns along those lines to colleagues, I was clobbered. That was before covid.
Props to all the working parents struggling through these tough days. "Let me say the quiet part loud: In the Covid-19 economy, you’re allowed only a kid or a job."
“It should be obvious, but a nonnegotiable precondition of “getting back to normal” is that families need a normal to return to as well.” Great piece by
Creches have started re-opening in Ireland this week. Which is why I get five minutes quiet to read and share this. It ain't wrong.
To unis restarting research now-ish & in person fall classes, plz know #COVID19 has potential to decimate a generation of women in #academia w/out childcare. I'm *most concerned* about students & postdocs w/out many resources to adapt. #PandemicParenting
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both. ☹️
In the #Covid19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both. We are not burned out. We are being crushed by an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential, by via #parenting
"Our struggle is not an emotional concern. We are not burned out. We are being crushed by an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential."
" Allowing workplaces to reopen while schools, camps and day cares remain closed tells a generation of working parents that it’s fine if they lose their jobs, insurance and livelihoods in the process."
“Let me say the quiet part loud: In the COVID-19 economy, you’re allowed only a kid or a job.” I’ve heard from a lot of parents who relate to this article. We can no longer ignore the caregiving crisis in America.
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.
“our national response feels more like a dystopian novel where only the wealthy get to limit their exposure and survive the pandemic unscathed.” Accurate summary by ⁦
The economy will only start to recover when schools and daycares reopen. In addition to 11% unemployment, we probably have >20% of individuals working at low productivity because they have no childcare.
This is the sentence of the day: "For parents who cannot simply sort it out, our national response feels more like a dystopian novel where only the wealthy get to limit their exposure and survive the pandemic unscathed."
"Allowing workplaces to reopen while schools, camps and day cares remain closed tells a generation of working parents that it’s fine if they lose their jobs, insurance and livelihoods in the process. It’s outrageous"
Those in power are completely failing to reckon with this choice. And things are only getting worse.
In a rolling tide of total institutional failures, this is really the most egregious
Thank YOU ⁦⁩! “Let me say the quiet part loud: In the #COVID19 economy, you’re allowed only a kid or a job. Why isn’t anyone talking about this?” #TRUTHS
This art is me every single pandemic workday afternoon except there is a pink princess tent to the left of my desk.
A conflict we must resolve: The care of children is a public good we must invest in. In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.
An essential concern for working parents::In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.
"Our struggle is not an emotional concern. We are not burned out. We are being crushed by an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential."
. nails it on what so many of us are experiencing (re school vs work during pandemic): While you're at it, also check out , which comes to the cooking rescue so many nights a week.
If you’re a “two working parents” family like ours, the fall/winter 2020 school session will be an interesting roller coaster to navigate.
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job: You Can’t Have Both. via
“We are burned out because we are being rolled over by the wheels of an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential.”
"We are not burned out because life is hard this year. We are burned out because we are being rolled over by the wheels of an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential."
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.
🙈 Didn’t know I could feel so seen
"Let me say the quiet part loud: In the Covid-19 economy, you’re allowed only a kid or a job."
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.
Eventually, every journalist will write this story. Because every journalist is experiencing some version of it (or knows someone who is).
The new whisper network: “For months, I’ve been muttering about this — in group texts, in secret FB groups for moms, in masked encounters when I bump into a parent friend on the street.” #COVID19 #pandemicParenting
THIS. "Allowing workplaces to reopen while schools, camps and day cares remain closed tells a generation of working parents that it’s fine if they lose their jobs, insurance and livelihoods in the process."
I cannot emphasize enough how much my spouse and I have benefited from outstanding backup childcare in the last few months. Neither of us could have made any professional progress without it and we know that we're extremely privileged to have it.
Add to the long list of (U.S.) systemic failures: "In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both."
"“I resent articles that view the struggle of working parents this year as an emotional concern...We are burned out because we are being rolled over by the wheels of an economy that has bafflingly declared working parents inessential.”
Read this (particularly if your kids are grown and you've forgotten what the parenting job entails) --> In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.
The American tradition of expecting parents to solve collective problems with no support. Employers & government officials offer their thoughts & prayers.
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both.
👆 that's the funny version. Reality of no regular childcare is pretty grueling, even w resources, work flexibility, no remote learning, and occasional family help. Great NYT piece on the reality 👇 - though it's 10x harder for those who can't WFH.
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both. - The New York Times
Sadly, I'm almost two wks late. The biggest reason is #COVID19. This article describes the situation. For the past ~6 wks I've only been able to work 3-5 hrs/day, usually starting @ 9-10 PM. You can't finish tasks on time when working half time. 2/
"For parents who cannot simply sort it out, our national response feels more like a dystopian novel where only the wealthy get to limit their exposure & survive the pandemic unscathed." #ICYMI #mustread by
In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both. via